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Was there a mentor who really shaped the way you worked?

Why this question matters

The people who shaped how we work often shaped who we became. This question tends to unlock stories about more than job skills — it reveals the values, standards, and confidence that someone instilled during formative professional years. The mentor might have been a boss, colleague, or even someone your parent observed from afar, but their influence often extends well beyond any single workplace.

If they pause, try this

Ask about the single best piece of advice that person gave them.

What people often remember when asked this

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    Some parents will describe a formal mentor relationship — someone who deliberately took them under their wing. These stories often reveal pivotal career moments and the specific guidance that made the difference.

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    Others will mention someone who never knew they were mentoring — a colleague whose work ethic they admired, or a boss whose approach they either emulated or rejected. Ask what they learned by watching.

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    If they say they never had a mentor, that's telling too. Ask how they figured things out on their own, or whether they wish they'd had that kind of guidance.

A small tip for the conversation

If they struggle to think of someone, try asking about the person they most respected at work, or someone whose approach they either wanted to copy or avoid completely.

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